Internal negotiations can include:

  • Resource allocation discussions
  • Project management and implementation
  • Labor relations
  • Influencing and persuading
  • Recruitment and promotion
  • Etc.

The problem starts with the structure of most corporate firms.  Decisions tend to follow a pyramid like hierarchy, even in flat or modular organizations.  As a result, disputes and conflicts are escalated for resolution.  The two sides submit their conflicting views and recommendations for consideration.  The decision maker chooses.  One side wins, and one side loses.  At the risk of over-simplifying the problem, this process creates win-lose outcomes when clearly win-win is appropriate given the circumstance.  (see Wheel of Negotiation)

Change the Decision Process

In order to avoid a win-lose outcome, the first step is to begin treating the discussion as a negotiation.  Instead of relying on delegated authorities to solve the conflict or issue, agree with the parties involved to reach a consensus as a group.  Leave escalation as a means for resolving deadlock or last resort.  If deadlock occurs, a “last best offer” style for the decision can be very effective at minimizing the lose factor.  In treating the issue as a negotiation a formal process needs to be followed to maximize the potential result. (Details below)

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Dr. David Matsumoto appears on ABC’s news broadcast discussing micro-expressions. I am a fan.

Below are my observations of the Tiger Woods press conference.
Overall, Tiger’s emotions, non-verbal communication, and words were very much aligned. He was truthful as he represented his feelings at the press conference. I did notice a couple of occasions when additional emotions leaked out.  There was a subtle undertone of anger throughout spots of the press conference, I believe this to be Tiger’s disposition as a result of having his personal life subject to scrutiny.  So without further adieu here are my observations.

  • 0:38 Tiger’s initial apology “I am deeply sorry….”, you can see the relief in his body as his shoulders droop ever so slightly indicating his genuine remorse. Yet, directly following his statement he flashes a partial emblem “No” as his head moves side to side.  I’m torn – what do you think?
  • 2:12 Tiger mentions letting “Those of you who work for me” down with his action.  I pick up a hint of anger during this statement.  One can only speculate why he’s angry at Team Tiger.  I don’t know enough to engage in any speculation.
  • 3:40 Tiger again reiterates his apology for all his actions. His statements are genuine and his actions are consistent with his words.  You will see a hard swallow, exhale, drooping shoulders, all consistent with his statement
  • 4:18 When he discusses Ellin’s grace and poise.  This statement appears to be false.  Tiger displays a flash of anger followed by a distinct “No” emblem (head shaking back and forth) as he claims Ellin deserves praise not blame.  Perhaps Tiger blames Ellin subconsciously for some of their marital problems, pure speculation.
  • 4:52 “I stopped living by the core values that I was taught to believe in”.  During this statement Tiger displays a subtle increase in his non-verbal manipulators as he rocks back and forth shifting his weight.  I’m not sure Tiger believes his statement.
  • 5:46 “I don’t get to play by different rules”, again an increase in non-verbal manipulation indicates he doesn’t believe this statement.  After all, if you’ve got $500 million in the bank, I’d say you’ve got a different set of rules than the rest of us.
  • 7:20 “It’s hard to admit I need help”, very subtle expression of disbelief across his mouth and eyes.  Although it could be a swallow as he prepares for his next statement, it was hard to distinguish because his head was tilted down towards his notes.
  • 8:01 When discussing whether Ellin and Tiger will stay together a subtle expression of doubt creeps across his face.  I don’t blame him, given what they have been through, doubt is a reasonable reaction here.
  • 8:28 Finally when Tiger denies taking performance enhancing drugs, his statement appeared to be truthful.

Overall, Tiger was genuine in his comments and showed a great deal of disappointment in his actions.  It is not uncommon for someone to conceal their emotions even when they are being honest.  I’d love to hear your comments and thoughts as well.

Darvin Moon finished 2nd in the 2009 World Series of Poker, winning $5.18 million.  Although Darvin is an amateur, many times he demonstrated an uncanny ability to make the right call at the right time.  Sometimes he was just plain lucky.

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Why do people get caught lying? The average person lies 3x in a 10 minute conversation. That’s 1,616,220 lies in a lifetime.  True many of those lies are your garden variety little white lies, harmless exaggerations, omissions, etc. So why is it, with all that practice, we still get caught?

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Humintell posted video clips of the John Edwards interview on ABC when he first denied the rumors of his affair and secondly denied fathering a child. Here are my comments on the John Edwards video. Which I’ve reproduced below.

I reviewed five minutes of video #1 and one minute of video #2. So here is my question, What do you see?
Here’s what I saw.
Video #1 (more…)

Negotiating in China

In Kissinger’s book, Ending the Vietnam War : A History of America’s Involvement in and Extrication from the Vietnam War, he recounts the following observation. The American delegation made arrangements to occupy 3 floors in a prominent hotel in Paris. The Vietnamese delegation, on the other hand, bought a chateau. The message was clear. We are here for as long as it takes.

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In a nutshell this is the advice I gave my client in response to yesterday’s post.

Start by examining what you know about the circumstance. (more…)

Today I thought it would be interesting to take and dissect a real negotiation to see some of the concepts in action.  So here is the setup, I’ve obscured some of the facts to protect the guilty:

Parties Involved:

1.  Record Company – Very large entertainment company (more…)

A brief interruption in the “10 Tips” series to pose a question to everybody whose is reading this.  People feel compelled to lie during a negotiation.  There are many forms of lying including omissions, concealing vital facts, exaggerations, innocent little white lies, complete fabrications, or whatever.   (more…)